I love hanging with gritty peeps who have transformed their abuse and challenges into good shit. It is sooo easy to fall into negativity and victimhood in our society. And on the flip side, peeps can gloss over and use toxic positivity to not recognize what happened to them so they can heal all those things that are tucked away and manifesting into mental and physical blocks and disease. In my professional experience I’ve seen that you deal with it now- or you deal with it in conditions and sickness later. It takes great courage to deal with it “now.” 🙏
My true inspirations are those who have been through more than me, but have a better outlook on life. Without the fake. Or the ignoring. Or the superficial. The real work- the real strength- and the moving in and moving on. I am intrigued how they do it- and my work is based on deconstructing that.
It’s a tricky balance, that’s for sure. And, as you know, this healing isn’t for the meek.
The peeps that looked like me or had things in common so often were stuck in the hard patterns - and though I had compassion, and sometimes spent wayyyy too long hanging in their crap with them- it just didn’t work for me to stay there. As an Empath- I can constantly feel that vibration and I couldn’t move forward. And felt empty. And alone. (And angry that peeps would help/cosign/keep them there, when I had no one who would “help” me...thank the Gods...)
So I worked my ass off to curate peeps that could understand me without pitying- and vice versa- who had “been there” too and had solutions, that saw the dark and suffered immensely- but knew light too. It takes a bit to figure out what the true grit is, but then eventually you see peeps around you who get you and you get. Who support you in your healing without being enmeshed in being, or staying, victims together. We are heroines. We are the mama bears. We are the badasses. (I think I’ll make T-shirts...😆)
There’s no right or wrong way to do this work- but for me, I want the true heroines around me.
Thank you, each one of you, for your badassery- for inspiring me and sharing your story. We will continue to learn together- and to heal this shit! ❤️🧡💚💛💙💜